Choosing Gratitude Over Comparison

7.24.2012

After reading a few posts that touched me last week, I feel the need to share what's on my heart. You may have noticed in recent posts that I have shared one of my favorite quotes:


Why is this my favorite quote? Well it's because it is something that I have to constantly remind myself. I'd be lying if I said that I don't compare myself to others. Whether it be about looks or material things, I find that when I let just a tiny bit of comparison sneak in, it can ruin my whole mood. I know it's completely crazy considering that I am happier than I have ever been! But I also bet that I'm not the only one...


I think it's so easy to get caught up in the "perfect" parts of peoples lives that we see on Facebook and blogs. But the truth is, no one has a perfect life! Everyone has problems and issues but those may be the things that we don't see. When we see the highlight reel of other people's lives online we can't help but wonder why we can't: be that skinny, have that house, buy those things, cook those meals, make those amazing crafts, be that kind of mother,etc.




Right now I'm doing a Bible study with She Reads Truth and the message last night really hit home for me. The author shared her daily struggle with being content. Content with her body, her home, her family, and every other part of her life. She said she gained perspective when she thought about others who may be facing real struggles. People who didn't have a roof over their heads or who struggle with health problems. When she compared her problems, like wanting to lose ten pounds, she realized just how much she had to be grateful for. She decided then that she would choose gratitude over comparison and she made a promise to herself to list ten things she was grateful for each morning. What a way to fight the need to compare, huh?


So today (and hopefully every day) I'm going to choose gratitude. Instead of comparing myself to others, I am going to be grateful for the wonderful blessings in my life. I will not let comparison steal my joy!


Today I am grateful for:
1. My wonderful husband
2. My darling baby girl
3. The health of my family and myself
4. My parents, who would do anything for us
5. the Marine Corps (it has provided us with a steady income for over 11 years now)
6. technology that helps us keep in touch with our loved ones
7. supportive friends
8. freshly brewed coffee
9. She Reads Truth (I feel like the devotionals were designed for me each day!)
10. Jesse working so hard so that I can stay at home with E




What do you do when comparison tries to steal your joy?

Mateya said...

Great post Tami! I couldn't agree more and I am definitely guilty of this myself. It's way too easy to compare ourselves to others and forget the many blessings we DO have. Thanks for the reminder :)

Beth Ann said...

I struggle with this, too... as much as I hate it and don't want to. I really think thankfulness is the key to contentment. Focusing on our blessings and what we have instead of what we don't unforunately doesn't come naturally to us all of the time. I think it is sort of a skill that takes practice to make it part of our every day lives...to make it our true focus. Have you read, "One Thousand Gifts?" I started but need to finish. It is all about this.

Megan said...

I compare myself with people multiple times a day! It is definitely the jealous green twin in my brain. I too struggle with it. Sometimes reminding myself that no one is perfect is hard, especially when people blog and other forms of social media about their lives. At the end of the day, I'm sure we all have our numerous bad hair days, our bodies might not be as toned as others and we might not have such a fabulous wardrobe, but we are more than lucky to be alive and have beautiful families. Just writing this comment has helped me for today!! Thanks Tami!

Lyndsey said...

So true! And that is one of my favorite quotes as well!

When I feel jealousy creeping up, I always remind myself God already gave me everything I've ever prayed for - a wonderful husband and a child I can stay home with - so I have nothing to complain about. It still happens, but it helps me keep myself in check.

Marinewife1111 {Marcella} said...

:)
Love that quote also!

Jenny said...

I love this post! Thanks for sharing! I have compared myself to others multiple times and I've always just reminded myself that nobody has a perfect life. We all share the happy things going on in our life but who actually shares all the negative things??

Emily Powell said...

I make a thankful list every night...it helps!

Meagan said...

I've been through this too. I had to take a break from facebook and blogging for a little while and get my life back on track.

Krissy said...

Tami, you are such an amazing person. I'm so happy I know you!

Katie said...

Great post, Tami! I need to be reminded of this daily--and I'm glad I'm not the only one!

Matt and Meg said...

Really could relate to this post! It is something I struggle with: contentment and comparing everything to others. Definitely going to start with the thankful list. Puts so much into perspective.

the workaholic momma said...

I LOVE LOVE LOVE that first quote...so perfect!!! I have tried very hard (esp since becoming a mommy) to not compare myself to or judge others...it just can become all-consuming and takes away from so many other positives (easier said than done, of course:))!!

Jeremy and Megan said...

I couldn't agree more with this post!!

I am still struggling with losing the last few lbs from being pregnant... I know, I know olivia is 14 months! I get caught up seeing all these new mamas who are 4, 6 & 8 weeks out and you can't even tell they had a baby!! I try not to be envious but I def am!!

Instead on focusing on the negative I try to focus on the positive!

Erin said...

Wonderful post! We definitely rob ourselves of joy through comparison. Love the quotes you've shared. As for She Reads Truth, it really is such a great devotional community! Every day speaks to the soul doesn't it?!

Michelle said...

Great post! I'll have to check out the devotional :)

luvbnmom said...

Excellent post and very insightful! I try to post the "real" is and include all the frustrations as well as great moments. We all want a little more sometimes, but greed is the center of all evil and I try to remember that. I think you have really hit the nail on the head with this post. The blogging community is so much fun, but we only get to see what people want us to see! I love your quotes and love your blog! Congratulations on your 10 reasons you are thankful, they are beautiful reasons.

Carissa said...

Great post Tami! We all get caught up in comparing ourselves and our lives with others. I think we wouldn't be human if we didn't. I too try to think of the things I'm thankful for! Thanks for the inspiration! I'm truly thankful for the blogging community and the wonderful people I've "met"!!

Anna said...

This is a great post!

MrsMcDancer said...

This post captures my thoughts perfectly. I often find myself comparing and letting it get me in the dumps even though I have SO much to be thankful for. I am going to put those quotes up in my house so I never forget!!

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