I've got the fever...

5.03.2012

Baby fever, that is. I've got it bad, my friends, and I'm afraid there's only one cure!

Seeing all my pregnant friends and cuddly little newborn babies has me itching for baby #2. I loved, loved, loved being pregnant and I love being a Momma even more! I just can't wait to do it all over again!

Don't worry though- we're not planning on expanding the family anytime soon! But we are thinking about when the time is right to add another baby to the mix. I always said that I want my kids to be four years apart but now I'm not sure I can wait that long! I'm fairly certain that we don't want 2 under 2 but we can't decide just how far apart we want our kiddos to be.  Or even how many we want, for that matter! Just like any other big life decision- there are several factors that we have to consider. Here are just few:

-future deployments- Is it better for Jesse to miss the birth and be home soon after or be there and then leave during the first year? Either way we know that deployment will be a fact of life.

-work, work, work- Do I want to try to work for a year or two before we have another one? (I could write an entire post on just the back to work thing) Or would it be better to have them a little closer together so that I can stay home with both of them for a few more years?

-daycare- If we have them fairly close together and I eventually return to work, would we want to pay for TWO kiddos to be in daycare? Yikes!

-look at that body- Post-baby body? Enough said!
-big sister- No matter what age she is,  I think Emerson will make an amazing big sister! I love seeing the neighborhood kids with their siblings- especially the ones that are pretty close in age. They are so adorable together and have such a special bond.

-my whole heart- From the moment she was born, Emerson stole my heart and I love her more than words could ever say. More than I could have ever dreamed. It's so hard for me to imagine that my heart has enough room to love TWO little ones that much. 

-age- if, and this is a big if, we decided to have a third, we don't want to be pushing 40 by the time number three comes around :) That means we'd have to get started on number 2 sooner rather than later.

-all done- If we just have two I think I'll be so sad when I know we're done so maybe I should spread them out a little bit farther so that I can savor it even more.

-money honey- we all know babies/kiddos are expensive!

-crazy baby- Emerson has been a dream baby! She is so laid back and content and really just as sweet as can be. I am so afraid that we are going to have a little wild child next. I know eventually we will have to pay for Jesse's raising. ;)


-seasoned pros- We've learned a lot as first-time parents. We should be pros for baby number 2. Haha!

-scary- Let's be honest. It's a little bit scary to think about having TWO kids to take care of. Emerson is the easiest baby in the world but it's still a lot of work caring for her. Could we handle two? And more importantly- could I handle two by myself while Jesse is deployed?

-baby E- I want to make sure that Emerson gets plenty of attention and gets to be a baby for as long as possible. I treasure our time together- just the two of us! A baby girl and her Momma. And I feel like our little family of three is perfect just the way it is!
These are just a few of the crazy and often conflicting things that run through my mind every time I think about having another baby. (I know I can't be the only one...)

So, yes, I have the fever, but it looks like the cure won't be coming my way anytime soon. I guess I'll just have to live vicariously through my pregnant friends and all of the pictures of the squishy and sweet little newborns



Jenny said...

My kids are 3 and a half years apart and I absolutely love the age difference! I think we waited the perfect amount of time for number 2. My oldest was old enough to understand what was going on when we had his sister and he is at that age where he is pretty self sufficient. I don't feel like I have to chase two kids around at the same time. Also, my two are the best of friends! And just FYI, you will probably have baby fever the rest of your life...even after having one or even two more. It is just part of being a mommy! Number 2 will come at the perfect time for your little family and Emerson will be the best big sister.

Brittney Galloway said...

It must be something about approaching the one year post birth mark- I think alot of my blog friends who had babies last spring are getting the fever!

Dana said...

Awww I can totally relate girl. We always said 4 years apart and we wanted 3. Well boy do things change. We said that bc of college and bc of daycare costs. Well I stopped working after we had our son and he is a year and we are about to have another baby in September! They will be exactly a year and a half apart. I NEVER would have thought I'd do that but I love the fact that I will have the baby stage "over with"...not to get it over with but they will be so close in age and I'm in that state of mind right now. We are having a girl this time and everyone says in 4 years I will want another but I don't think so. I think by then we will start doing sports and things so I won't want a newborn when I'm going with them. So, I think we are done which isn't making me too sad but we will see.

Do what makes sense to y'all. I wanted another baby when he was a newborn, lol, and finally we started trying when he was 7 months old!

Fun stuff! Can't wait to see how long you wait!!! I bet you won't wait long!!!!!

Kelli Kegley said...

Girl, I got the fever when Connor was only 5 months old! Ha! I got pregnant when he was almost 17 months, and cafe was born when he was just a little over 25 months old. He understood so much more than I thought he did and it has been great so far (with the whole 2 weeks of experience I have! Haha) as far as the love goes, trust me, there is room. And you'll also add a love for your kids together. Pretty much, your heart will feel like it is going to explode! Ha! With all that said, you'll just know when it's time :)

Emily Powell said...

I think our children will be the opposite of yours. Georgia has been a handful since the day we brought her home (easy birth, easy hospital stay, easy pregnancy) although she is pretty easy now although wild. I think (hope and pray) our next one is calm and laid back! I can't have baby fever because Georgia to me is still all baby! I'm refusing to say she is a toddler!

Lyndsey said...

I can relate to just about everything on your list! One of the big factors that keeps me wanting to wait is how much I love my time with Liam and I'm not ready to share! But then I see how good he is around other kids and I long for him to have a little friend to play with! Ah! I loved being pregnant too, but I think it will be very different next time around - no more lounging on the couch while everyone does everything for you, ha! :)

Melissa Knott said...

I had serious baby fever too, which is why we decided to start trying for baby number one. Now that we are pregnant, I am seeing other pregnant people EVERYWHERE!

If I weren't already expecting, I would have issues leaving the house due to all of those lucky ducks who are.

It is a tough decision, but what is right for you and your family, not what others say you "should" do. : )

SushiMama said...

It's a big decision!!! Sounds like you've got a good handle on all all of your thoughts about it, so now it's just a matter of working through them (or deciding you don't want to wait and just jumping in haha). Whenever he or she comes, baby #2 will be blessed to call you mama!

Mallorie said...

I could've written this post! I don't have baby fever at ALL because EC is still very much a baby! But I know this is how I will feel in the future!

Mateya said...

I think that just like with having your first one, there never really is a "perfect" time. Whenever it happens will be the Lord's perfect time :)

I think ours will be at least 3 years apart. I totally agree about completely enjoying this stage with Emerson before she's just not the only one anymore. Trying to plan around deployments is just impossible, either way it's not an ideal situation but it'll all work out!

Michelle said...

You and I have so many of the same thoughts - other than deployment of course. I don't have baby fever, but preggo fever - oddly, I loved being pregnant.

I'm thinking three years apart? Because I definitely want my baby to be a baby as long as possible. And once he hits 3, we can do preschool, which is less expensive than daycare. Because unless we win the lottery, I'm gonna have to work :(

Rachel and John said...

I have the fever too. We want 4 kids so I'm not even close to finished but I do think about the last pregnancy and how I think it might be sad. I loved being pregnant and if I could be pregnant forever without having a zillion kids I would.

Marinewife1111 {Marcella} said...

The important part, is that you and your husband answer those questions on your own, cuz only you two can make those decisions.
But remember this, even though it doesn't seem possible, your heart grows that much more when you have another baby! :)

Natalie said...

We talk about this all the time because there are just so many factors. However, I am the opposite of you! :) Before Callyn was born I thought we'd want our kids close together (2 years or less) and now I don't feel like I want to be pregnant again ANY TIME SOON! ha! Just thinking about being pregnant in the next 6 months-year almost makes me have a panic attack! But I was so sick the whole time and even though I did love pregnancy, it was hard and I often wonder how I will be able to adequately take care of Callyn while being that sick for 9 months. So I definitely don't have the fever, yet. But we still talk about spacing...so many complications! Plus, it took us so long to get pregnant the first time, if it's going to take that long again we should get started earlier!

J and A said...

Do I EVER have baby fever! Geesh. You have put a lot of thought into your post for sure, I know when the time is right Emerson will be a great big is!

ajs {of MN} said...

you are NOT the only one! ;)

Mom said...

Aww. Mimi would definately have enough love to go around. Could be lucky #7 girl or the 1st grandson.... You are an awesome Mom and you could handle 2 with out any problem.

Jeremy and Megan said...

Olivia turns 1 this month and we started THINKING about it too. We talk about it but know we want to wait a little bit. I think the hardest part is choosing how far apart they should be too!! I still have a couple pounds to lose and I worry next time will be even more difficult to get my body back. All of your questions I have thought of too!!

Andrea @ Life in Dawleywood said...

I love this post! I am getting baby fever now too, in a bad way. We have started talking about when to start trying, but like you mentioned, there are just so many things to factor in. You are definitely not the only one with conflicting thoughts! =)

Lindsay said...

I go back and forth trying to figure out if we are ready. After getting married, I said we would start trying after 30. I just turned 30 a little over a month ago and I'm freaking out thinking about trying.

Kate @ Daffodils said...

Our boys are exactly two years apart and I love it. I think we are going to aim for that gap for #3 too. I had the same fears about there being love enough for another, but ending up being SO emotional when Bennett was born because I couldnt believe how big my heart got in that moment. Then, when you see them love each otehr- o my word, there is nothing better. I also found that #2 is cheaper because you re-use and don't use a lot of things taht you thought you *needed* for baby 1. And C was such a good baby, I thought B would be a troublemaker, but by some crazy luck, he is actually even EASIER than Cullen was. He is so laid back and happy. You will figure out what is right for you, but #2 definitely isn't as scary as it seems!

Anna & Kirby said...

oh my goodness... just have another already ;) Joking! I'm sure it's so hard to "plan" for the right time. But seriously... I can't wait to read that post one day (soon I hope) ;)

-Lauren said...

I could have written this! That's why I love you. So many great points that you brought up. There will never be a perfect time, but when the time comes it will be perfect. I sometimes have a small pang of baby fever. But then Grant bites my nipple and brings me back to reality!

Kelly said...

I'm with you, but feel the same as you do about many of your reasons to wait. It's hard though!!!!! :)

The Jeffcoats said...

You would be just as wonderful with 2 as you are with 1!! And believe me- when you see those babies together, there is nothing sweeter!! Oh, and as for planning- you know our number 3 and your number 2 have to be close in age too, right?! ;)

Matt and Ris said...

I was worried that I wouldn't have enough love in my heart for baby #2, like you mentioned. My heart is consumed by Lyla and I still get teary sometimes just looking at her and thinking about how I never knew I could love someone as much as I love her. Baby #2 was a little surprise (we were planning to go back to the fertility doctor in another 9-10 months), but we were still excited. The fear of not having enough love to go around set in pretty quickly, but I remember the day that fear disappeared. We had a scare early in the pregnancy and went for an ultrasound. Just seeing the tiny little gummy bear of a baby stole my heart again and from that moment on I knew I could love both of my children fiercely and without having to divide that love. As scary as that moment was, I think it has really reassured me during this pregnancy that my sweet baby Lucy will be just as special to me as my first love, Lyla. :-)

Michelle said...

I have some serious baby fever!! It came out of nowhere about a month ago. I do have a hard time thinking that I won't have as much one on one time with Ellie if we had another baby, and I worry about having another baby and not having the same bonding with them as I did with E. there's a lot to think about when you decide to have another baby, but you're a great mom so I'm sure you would transition beautifully :)

the workaholic momma said...

I totally and 100% hear you!!!! But, I too am just living vicariously through friends - I can't imagine how I would do it with 2!

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